Inappropriate Comments

Sunday, September 19, 2010

So, we all get inappropriate comments, but here's something I just had to share.

I'm in a wedding next weekend, so while the menfolk (Peter included) were having their bachelor party, us ladies and the babies met at the cookie shop, then did a late lunch before hanging out for a few hours.  (We'd already had a bridal tea, bridal shower, and bachelorette party.  This was just a fun afternoon!)  So, several folks bought cookies and divided them and put them in the middle of the table to share.  As we are sitting there, talking and eating, there are two women behind us; one is probably in her mid-40s, the other in her late-50s to early-60s.  They get up to leave and have to walk by our table.  The older of the women stops and says that she has 8 year old b/g twin grandchildren and asks how old the kids are.  Then she looks at our table (keep in mind, there are 5 of us plus Bobby and Maya), and says "You guys must really like cookies."  Really?  It's a cookie shop.  And, if five of us are eating a dozen cookies, that's like, 2.5 cookies a piece!

But that isn't the kicker.  So, her friend says "Oh, I have 5 year old twins.  This is such a great age."  I smile, say they are fun, and, as these two are about out the door, turn back to our table.  The older of the two lets her friend pass and then says "At one time, twins were just so special, but now I see them everywhere."  I say that, yes, we've met quite a number of twins when we are out.  (Although, even though I didnt say it, I think they are still special!)  She replies, "Well, it's because you girls are waiting so long to get pregnant." And then leaves!

You girls?  Our table ranged in ages from 18-early 30s.  Or was that for twin mothers in general?  But since she directed it in my direction, I actually said (albeit after the door closed) "I'm 30!  It's not like I'm old!"  We got a riot out of it, but geez!  Who thinks it is okay to say that?  Funny of funnies... I dont know if she was implying that older women are naturally more likely to release more than one egg and, thus, have twins, or if she was implying that older women have reproductive issues and due to medication or IVF are more likely to mother multiples.  I'm assuming the latter, but I'll never know!

Maybe I should cover up my gray hair afterall! (Just kidding...)

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I'm struggling to find time to post.  I'm packing up stuff and loading it during my free time, which isnt much, and right now, and packing up the library where my desk and stuff was.  So, once I get stuff organized and dont feel like I have so much to do, I'll get back to posting.  As it is, I'm cantoring the 7:30 Mass and needed to sit at my computer and listen to my music, so I had a few free moments to post and catch up.

11 comments:

Barb said...

It always annoys me too that they think they know your story. They think they KNOW that you "waited" until your 30s to have a baby. They have no clue. I would have had a baby at 28 if all had gone according to plan. Unfortunately life isn't like that.

Sophie said...

It's just plain rude. Presumptious and rude.

JenJen said...

I'm *assuming* she just meant that twins are on the rise b/c of IVF b/c a lot of women are waiting to have babies later in life? I'm sure she didn't mean you in particular so keep on rocking the gray hair :) Isn't gray hair color all the rage right now, anyways?!?

Michele said...

Thanks Jen- I love my hair! LOL

butterflymom said...

I have learned so much about people this year.... Tact is definitely something that is worth teaching and learning about again. By the way, 30 is definitely not old.

Debby@Just Breathe said...

Why? What was the point of that!!!
I would have loved to have said "at least we have mannors!"

Paula said...

Perhaps she's related to the mom of the woman (girl actually since she was 15) my friend shared a room with when she was in the hospital after having her son. The new grandmother told my friend who is my age and was told she'd never have children that she was so glad her daughter was having her baby now at 15 so she could have the rest of her life to live when the baby grew up and she was still young. Very odd.

one-hit_wonder said...

that was crazy-rude. i'm sorry you had to hear that. but hopefully the cookies were good! :)

Cape Girl said...

What is it with people? I think many comments like that stem from jealousy of some sort?! I'm glad it just made you laugh. What were they doing in the cookie shop if they weren't eating cookies? Eating apples??...hahaha

MrsSpock said...

Geez, I'm 32, and I certainly don't think that's very old for having children!

Dreams and False Alarms said...

Geeze!