They Cared

Sunday, January 9, 2011

(What do you think of the new background?  I needed a change...  It's that time of year.  And I've finally been able to read a few books, now that the kids dont try to eat them all the time. :)  So, I thought I'd put a happier background up!)

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A few months ago, I posted about the IRS sending us a letter and telling us that our 2008 taxes weren't approved.  (Yeah... 2010 is a GREAT time to tell us!)  So, I called them and talked to a nice woman and we were told to refile.  So, we did.  And then, in December, we received a letter stating that they were rejecting Nicholas, Sophia, and Alexander on our return, unless I could send them social security numbers (which I dont have).  They had assessed what we owed them- plus penalties, of course- and came up with over 6K that was due to them ASAP.  So, after a week of feeling the pain so strong that I couldnt even breathe when I thought about it, I decided to write them a letter, which they stated could be done if we wanted to challenge their ruling.  Although it was hard, during naptime, I sat at my computer and wrote as though I thought someone at the IRS would give a damn.

It turns out, they did.  We received a letter from them on Saturday.  They've accepted our return.  They are acknowledging the short lives our children lived.  They count.  They matter.  To the IRS.  To someone who gains nothing- really nothing- by saying they were our children and they lived, even for that short time.

I dont know who sat down and read my letter.  I dont know what supervisor may have had to sign off on what.  But I do know that the IRS rarely gets love.  They rarely are told "thank you".  So, thank you IRS.  Thank you for having a heart and giving grieving parents a moment of peace.  For understanding, even if just for a moment, that my babies count.

Even if they never grow to pay taxes of their own.  Even if they are only able to be claimed as "dependents" once.  Even if they die before they have a change to fully live and experience LIFE in every way possible.

Thank you for affirming that every minute counts for something.  That, for that moment, they were not just our in-the-womb babies, but our out-of-the-womb, living, breathing babies, too.  That they mattered to you, a government entity.

Most people dont cherish their tax returns or their correspondence from the IRS.  But I'll be keeping these forever, locked privately away in the box that contains the special treasures that belonged to Nicholas, Sophia, and Alexander.

And, although I'll bitch and moan about filing taxes (and paying whatever we may owe), I'll also hold those folks at the IRS in a special spot in my heart... because, in this situation, they took the time to have one.

And, some days, that is what you need to get through the day.

13 comments:

Debby@Just Breathe said...

Your new background looks wonderful. I am so glad that someone listened and so happy that you continued to pursue for the right of your children.

Kakunaa said...

I am simply amazed that your plea did not fall on deaf ears! Congratulations :)

Jenn said...

Wow, God was with that person that day, and they listend to His whisper! Love your new background too.

Aisha said...

First, *hugs* this post made me smile- the humanity of people never fails to surprise me and fill me with joy. So grateful for this Michele- you deserve this- your kids deserved this. They mattered- we all know that- I'm glad you got recognition from the government on this too.

Second, LOVE LOVE LOVE the new blog layout! Its gorgeous!

Trennia said...

Your background is awesome!
I'm glad someone listened and helped!

Heather said...

This is amazing, and surprising! and I love the new background! =)

Joanna said...

It's always nice to see our children acknowledged - I'm happy that the IRS acknowledged yours. Hooray!!!

New backgrounds always cheer us up...so good choice!

Jill said...

Glad they took the time. A caring heart can mean the world. Love the background!

Donna said...

That really is an amazing story! Our taxes were rejected the year we tried to claim Ellie. I never could face the thought of having to explain it to someone and having them tell me that no - she really didn't count. Kudos to you for having the courage to step out there and write it all down! I wish you could find out who approved your letter. It would be wonderful to thank them.

MrsSpock said...

Wow, that is wonderful.

Terri Jones said...

Amazing! And I like the new background, too.

one-hit_wonder said...

Well said.

And I love the cheerful background.

Jessica said...

Love the new background! That story made my heart smile. I am sorry I am so late in commenting. Very behind :(